Take-Away: Godly Conflict Resolution

Whenever I hear a speaker, read an article or read a book, I look for “take-aways;” a significant thought or statement that has meaning. Yesterday in church, our pastor, who is often dry as West Texas dust but who regularly comes up with incredible insights, offered up a take away that’s worth writing about.

He ended his sermon with a challenging question, “How can we, as Christians, subvert culture?” Of course the first issues I have to work through is his premise that Christians are to be about “subverting culture.” As a missionary anthropologist I advocate that Christians should NOT seek to subvert culture, at least not intentionally. Yes, I understand that when culture clashes with the Gospel it does bring about a subversive effect, but that subversion goes to the heart of man’s rebellion toward God. It is the sinful practices of humanity, manifested in everything from drunkenness, to divorce, polytheism and abortion that is the root of the problem, not the cultures in which we live. To be sure, the life of a follower of Christ will run counter-culture, as our Lord Himself was to the cultural practices of His day. But the issue is not subversion of culture but subversion to rebellion to a Holy God.

Godly conflict resolution is the answer to challenging worldview and cultural assumptions. As the pastor rightly pointed out, conflict resolution is a popular topic that can be found in the arena of business, marriage counseling as well as among the community of the church. Conflict is inevitable, but dealing with conflict is a mandate if a person or a community is to grow spiritually or even come to understand the Gospel. Many people refuse to address conflict assuming that by avoiding it they won’t have to deal with the messiness of sin; conflict is something they will just sweep under the rug. Conflict doesn’t exist if it can be ignored.

Perhaps one reason so few Christians share their faith with others is because of this reticence toward conflict. Let “sleeping dogs lie,” they contend. Why go to another culture and stir the pot? Why tell a friend or family member the answer to their problems is being a disciple of Christ? It’s easier to avoid conflict than try to resolve it godly or biblically.

There are many things that could be said about conflict resolution, certainly more than can be addressed in a blog. But last week I listened to a testimony of godly conflict resolution (click here to hear this amazing story). What struck me about this testimony was the courage it takes to resolve conflict. It’s a story of grace, a witness of what it means to be a disciple of the Master.

We are not called to subvert culture, but we are called to subvert that which keeps us, all of us, from knowing more about Him. Godly conflict resolution is important for all of us to understand and take away.